We are continuing today on the
subject of offense-rooted bitterness. It's essential, because without receiving
forgiveness and cleansing, bitterness leads not only to becoming personally
rejected, but projecting it onto others also.
I don't think we realize just how
easy it is to become offended in a totally honest, yet truly self-righteous
way. For example, in the church we are taught about what God requires of His
people. Therefore, we are constantly aware of that in our own lives. But
without taking what opposes God in our hearts to the Cross of Christ for
crucifixion, we (instead) make it about what others need to do. Add to this,
that in the world we are continually being inundated with countless stories of
(often true) victimization, or stories of people seeking reparations for being
treated unfairly: how everyone deserves to get "a pound of flesh" for
all that's wrong. From what pill you took to what responsibility you didn't
take-- there is an adversarial remedy for literally everything that anyone may
have said or done which could be claimed to harm or hinder.
This world is an increasingly
angry, about to explode, "living on the edge" place. Explanations for
this vary from "the devil's time is short" to 'we're finally going to
stop sweeping everything under the rug' (Rev.12:12). The Internet has not
helped, because people hide behind domain names, hashtags and faceless (or
Facebooked) popularity with seeming anonymity. Much of it is in order to vent
callous humor, ridicule, anger, rage, malice and perversion of every type. Just
describing it makes me sound as though I am angry, and no doubt some will feel
a rise in their blood pressure just by reading this.
During the last 30 years, the
Entertainment Media can be argued to have led the way, intentionally seeking to
bring more 'reality' to everything from Sitcoms to Cop Shows. The question of
"does art imitate life, or does life imitate art?" has accelerated
way past "which came first, the chicken or the egg?" into a no holds
barred, leave nothing to the imagination, 'in your face,' 'let's expose it
all,' 'public's right to know' flagrancy. It's been so 'told' and shown again
and again that now the only popular 'art' left is to present the 'star of the
show' as an Antihero, Hero: the clearly 'bad guy' who is portrayed in a
sympathetic way to get you to buy into the supposedly nebulous 'gray' area of
"what IS wrong or right today?"
We have become so accustomed to
controversy, infighting, division and open hatred, that instead of being
informed by God's Word and the Holy Spirit about how to respond to what takes
place around us, we instinctively swallow and follow the bombardment of bad
examples paraded in front of us. This, whether shown in the news, on the
screens, or over the air. Everything from societal stinkers, the well-meaning
yet ignorant, to even (perhaps especially at times) government leaders are
featured for us to focus and feast on.
It's time we woke up to the
extent of what Jesus said, and how it applies to us today: "it is impossible
but that offenses will come" (Lk.17:1). And when you add to this the
admonition we later find in Hebrews, we see just how absolutely essential it is
that we face the condition of our heart with sobriety, repenting in whatever
way necessary:
"See to it that no one comes
short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes
trouble, and by it many be defiled; that
there be no immoral or godless person like Esau, who sold his own birthright
for a single meal. For you know that even afterwards, when he desired to
inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance,
though he sought for it with tears" (Heb.12:15-17).
The description of the problem
can be endless, but the solution is not only Eternal in its availability, but
its Power. The only (yet totally sufficient) answer is forgiveness through the
Lord Jesus Christ. It is to that end I am writing today, that we get to the
root of what causes bitterness: the outstanding need for receiving and then
extending true forgiveness- that which is empowered by what Christ gives.
I believe the following guide can
be helpful for those with unfinished business in matters of unforgiveness which
has led to bitterness. There is much in it, it should not be gobbled quickly.
Perhaps it should even be broken down into a separate point per day to receive
the best benefit and build a good foundation for rooting out any and every root
of bitterness. And then kept for reference and occasional maintenance.
*It may be printed out according
to the instructions at the close.
Let's allow God to touch and
transform every part of us which hurts and hides us from Him and makes us less
than we should be to others! And let's encourage others to obtain their freedom
according to the Scriptural admonition.
"Brethren,
even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a
one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too
will not be tempted. Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of
Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives
himself. But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason
for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. For each
one will bear his own load."
"The
one who is taught the word is to share all good things with the one who teaches
him. Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he
will also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap
corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap
eternal life. Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap
if we do not grow weary. So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to
all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith"
(Gal.6:1-10).
Dictionary Information:
Definition Bitterness
Thesaurus: Bitterness
Description and Meaning: Bitterness
Bitterness (Bit"ter*ness)
(?), n.
[AS. biternys; biter better +
-nys = -ness.]
·
The quality or state of being bitter, sharp, or
acrid, in either a literal or figurative sense; implacableness; resentfulness;
severity; keenness of reproach or sarcasm; deep distress, grief, or vexation of
mind. "The lip that curls with bitterness." Percival. "I will
complain in the bitterness of my soul." Job vii. 11.
·
A state of extreme impiety or enmity to God.
"Thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity."
Acts viii. 23.
·
Dangerous error, or schism, tending to draw
persons to apostasy. "Looking diligently...lest any root of bitterness
springing up trouble you." Heb. xii. 15.
1)
Rooting out bitterness
2)
Stages of bitterness
3)
How do you deal with your hurt?
4)
Bitterness produces the sin of unforgiveness.
5)
Scriptural analysis of unforgiveness.
6)
Forgiveness:
To excuse an offense or to pass over a fault without demanding
punishment.
7)
What is my part in forgiveness?
8)
How to stay free of unforgiveness.
9)
Verses on (or related to) patience
1) Rooting Out Bitterness
·
The Bible tells us, Hebrews 12:15, Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God;
lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be
defiled.
·
The fruits of bitterness are anger, wrath,
slander, hate, and malice (or desire to see another suffer).
2) Stages of Bitterness
1.
Oversensitive to a verbal remark, action, or
lack of action.
2.
Hurt feelings.
3.
Repulsive feeling toward a person at the thought
or sight of him.
4.
Retaining wounds and frequently talking about
them.
5.
Alienation of a person.
6.
Verbal slander against the person.
7.
Lack of obedience (ref Mt 5:44,45).
8.
Becoming like the one you despise.
3) How do You Deal with Your Hurt?
It is not wrong to feel hurt, but
how you deal with it makes all the difference in what happens to you!
A.
Characteristics:
1.
A bitter person cares very little for the person
he is bitter against.
2.
He is very touchy.
3.
Can be ungrateful.
4.
Gives empty flattery and harsh criticism.
5.
Holds grudges and finds it difficult to forgive.
6.
He displays stubbornness or a sulky attitude.
7.
Will help no one or complains sometimes when
asked to help.
8.
Experiences mood extreme highs and lows.
B.
Bitterness keeps getting worse; it hurts not
only the holder, but everyone in the way.
1.
Clean out the filing cabinet of your mind.
2.
You are the one hurt most, because of what it
does to you spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
4) Bitterness Produces the "Sin" of
Unforgiveness
1.
Spiritually: An inability to love God. If we
fail to forgive, we break the commandments of loving God and forgiving one
another.
2.
Emotionally: Creates an emotional focus toward
the one who hurt. This focus results in us becoming just like the one we
resent.
5) Scriptural Analysis of Unforgiveness
1.
The Lord's Prayer - Matthew 6:12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors (or forgive us just the way we forgive others).
2.
Matthew
6:14-15 For if
you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you;
but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive
your trespasses.
3.
Hinders
prayer since it is sin - Isaiah 59:2; 1 Peter 3:7.
4.
Jesus gives us a parable, in Mt 18:21-35: Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft
shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee,
Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened
unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was
brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord
commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and
payment to be made. The servant
therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me,
and I will pay thee all. Then the lord
of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the
debt. But the same servant went out, and
found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid
hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet,
and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into
prison, till he should pay the debt. So
when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and
told unto their lord all that was done. Then
his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I
forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion
on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to
the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also
unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not everyone his brother their
trespasses.
5.
Unforgiveness retains the sins of my past,
bringing them into my present state; if left untreated, they will affect my
future and relationship with others. John
20:23 Whosesoever
sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whosesoever sins ye retain,
they are retained.
6. It
can cause me to become a stumbling block.
Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers,
provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition
of the Lord. Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness,
and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with
all malice.
7.
It will cause me to stray from the Lord and
alienates me from the body of Christ.
8.
It causes division in the body of Christ.
a. It
brings about jealousy, envy, and strife.
b. It
is a result of pride.
9. It gives Satan an advantage in our lives.
a. 2 Corinthians 2:7-11 Teaches
us to forgive: So that
contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such
a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm
your love toward him. For to this end
also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in
all things. To whom ye forgive anything,
I forgive also: for if I forgave anything, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes
forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us:
for we are not ignorant of his devices.
b. Do not give place to the devil (if you do, you give the devil
opportunity to wreck your life).
6) Forgiveness: To Excuse an Offense or to Pass Over a Fault Without
Demanding Punishment.
1.
Saying, "I forgive, but I won't
forget" just means, "I won't forgive."
2.
Forgiveness costs you, because it bears the
penalty of the other's sin against you.
3.
Forgiveness is an activity of the will. We
cannot wait for a feeling before we forgive.
4.
Forgiveness is surrendering my right to hurt you
back if you hurt me.
5.
It is quiet and does not make known to others - ref
Proverbs 25:9.
6.
When we forgive, we do not bring it up again-ref
Isa 43:25; Ps 103:12.
* Forgiveness draws out the sting of the
bee.
* Discover the economy of pardon instead of
the expense of resentment: forgiveness
saves the expense of anger, the cost of
hatred, and the waste of a hurt spirit.
7) What is My Part in Forgiveness?
1.
Even though, at this time, you may be
unconscious of any unforgiveness, realize God looks upon your heart.
a. Pray
Psalm 139:23 Search me O God, and know my heart. Try and know my thoughts; and see if there be
any wicked way in me (show me any hurtful ways).
b. Ask God, by the Holy Spirit, to search your
heart and reveal hidden hurts or resentments that may be buried.
c. Confess
your sin and ask God to forgive you. You may find it necessary to go to someone
to make the forgiveness complete.
2.
Forgiveness will cost you your pride. You must
go humbly.
8) How to Stay Free of Unforgiveness
1.
Forsake being worldly.
2.
Ask the Lord to change your way of thinking:
a. Be
slow to take offense.
b. Refuse
hurt feelings.
c. Pray
for anyone who despitefully uses you - ref Matthew 5:44.
3.
Stay in the Word and nourish your spirit by
reading and obeying the Word.
4.
Pray.
5.
Take action to forgive; the choice is yours. Do
you have unforgiveness toward?
a. Parents
b. Yourself
c. Repressed
anger toward God
d. A
former mate (or perhaps his family)
e. Those
in authority over us
f. Others
- friends
6.
Practice the Scripture (be a doer of the Word):
a. Matthew
5:23-24 - Go to your brother and be reconciled.
b. Romans
12:19-21- Don't take revenge, but let the Lord do it. Do good to your enemies;
thus, heaping coals of shame on their head.
7.
Patience: The capacity of calm endurance,
tolerant understanding, forbearance, tolerance of something or someone over a
period of time?generally without complaint?though not necessarily without
annoyance.
9) Verses on (or Related to) Patience
Psalms 37:7-9
Proverbs 15:18
Ecclesiastes 7:8-9
Lamentations 3:26-27
Luke 8:15; 21:19
Romans 2:7; 8:25; 12:12; 15:4-5
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
2 Corinthians 6:4-6; 12:12
Galatians 6:9
Ephesians 4:1,2
Colossians 1:10-11; 3:12-13
1 Thessalonians 1:3; 5:14
1 Timothy 3:2-3; 6:11
2 Timothy 2:24
Titus 2:2
Hebrews 6:12,15; 10:36; 12:1
James 1:3-4; 19; 5:7,8
1 Peter 2:20
2 Peter 1:5-6
Revelation 1:9; 13:10; 14:12
Isaac: Genesis 26:15-22
Moses: Exodus 16:7-8
Job: Job 1:21; James 5:11
David: Psalm 40:1
Simeon: Luke 2:25
Paul: 2 Timothy 3:10
Prophets: James 5:10
The Thessalonians: 2 Thessalonians
1:4
The Churches at Ephesus and
Thyatira: Rev 2:2-3; 2:19
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