Whoever gets sense loves his own soul; he who keeps understanding will
discover good. Proverbs 19:8 (ESV)
"Love yourself first and everything falls into line." - Lucille
Ball
One of the most important
decisions you will ever make will affect every aspect of your life. It's the decision to commit to love and
accept yourself. It affects the quality
of all your relationships, your work, your future, etc.
Loving yourself is vitally
important and it's at the very core of your wellbeing. It directly affects your joy,
self-empowerment and your ability to enjoy the kind of life you desire and
deserve. You can't enjoy happiness if
you aren't at peace with yourself.
Not loving yourself can be
severely debilitating. At the least, you
will experience indecision and self-doubt.
However it could be much worse and you could suffer from depression or
self-loathing.
There is nothing wrong with
loving yourself. It's necessary for you to
lead a happy and successful life with confidence. Your happiness comes from within as does love
so your happiness is directly linked to the love you have for yourself.
Self-esteem and self-love are
issues that are deeply related. If you
have low self-esteem, it's possible that the root cause is insufficient
self-love. If you are confident in
yourself or have high self-esteem it most likely is because you accept and love
yourself unconditionally. When you
decide to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive and
live life to the fullest in every area.
You realize and accept that you are responsible for your life
experiences.
So how do you love yourself? Here are some ways that could be helpful.
1.
Get in
touch with yourself. Find out what
makes you, you. Just like a plant needs
watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. It is absolutely beneficial to embrace all
the good that is in your life. But you
must also accept your flaws and the fact that you are not perfect. Yes, change may come from realizing your
shortcomings but more importantly you should be kind and gentle to yourself
despite your flaws. Look in a mirror and
fall in love with the reflection of you.
2.
Pay
attention to your self-talk. Learn to talk to yourself in an affirming and
loving way. Many times people talk
negatively to themselves and keep saying things like, "I'm not good enough," "I
can't do anything right," or worse. When
you talk negatively to yourself you wear yourself down. When you talk positively to yourself, you
program your subconscious mind with positive images which will manifest in you
experiencing self-love.
3.
Forgive
yourself. So you've made
mistakes. So has everyone else in the
world. There are some people that keep
feeling guilty after making mistakes.
They believe they don't deserve to be forgiven. There is no mistake that you have ever made
that doesn't deserve forgiveness from yourself.
It might take some time but once you change your mindset and realize
that it's ok to forgive yourself, you will experience freedom from the guilt of
your mistakes and will begin to love yourself more.
4.
Trust yourself. Be confident in your abilities and know that
you are better than you think you are.
5.
Stop
looking for approval. Most people
have sought the approval of someone else at some point in life and there is
nothing wrong with that. But once the
"want" of an approval turns into a "need" for an approval it can become
dangerous to your self-love. Not needing
to seek approval is good because it will help build your self-confidence. Yes it is definitely important to listen to
others but remember their opinions are no more important than your opinion.
6.
Relax and
have fun. Give yourself some time to
take breaks and inject some fun into your life.
Life is meant to be enjoyable.
Don't take yourself or life too seriously. Allow yourself some down time to pamper
yourself and relax. Enjoy some silence,
soothing music or anything else that will nourish your soul, mind and body.
7.
Grow
spiritually. When you spend time
growing spiritually, the love for yourself will come naturally. You will become more peaceful, kind, loving
and compassionate. When you nurture your
soul, mind and body daily, you will naturally love yourself in the process.
Full disclosure: I have not mastered ANY of these 7
steps. But I'm on a journey and I'm
learning to apply them to my life, appreciate and accept the person I am and
live life to the fullest.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." - Oscar
Wilde
Enjoying the journey.
Patrick Carden
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