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By Jeremy Lopez
In a world full of noise with constant notifications, endless commentary, and conversations that often feel more like competitions, true listening is becoming a lost art. We hear just enough to respond, but rarely enough to understand. We listen long enough to defend our point, but seldom long enough to discern someone’s heart. Yet throughout Scripture and in the life of Jesus, we see a different way: the way of holy listening.
Holy listening is more than paying attention. It’s paying honor. It’s more than hearing words. It’s receiving a person. It’s more than letting someone speak. It’s letting someone be.
Listening as an Act of Grace
When someone shares their story, especially the fragile parts, they’re offering a sacred trust. Holy listening means we hold that trust with care. We don’t rush, interrupt, fix, or filter their words through our own assumptions. Instead, we slow down long enough to recognize the image of God in front of us.
Every human carries a divine imprint. And when we truly listen, we are acknowledging that imprint. We’re saying, “You matter. Your experience matters. Your voice matters.” In a culture that often prefers speaking over understanding, this simple act becomes a form of grace.
The Way Jesus Listened
Jesus’ listening was an act of love. He didn’t just heal people; He heard them. He listened to the woman at the well long before He revealed who He was. He listened to the cries of blind Bartimaeus even when the crowd tried to silence him. He listened to disciples on the road to Emmaus as they poured out disappointment and confusion.
Listening was part of His ministry. Part of His compassion. Part of His presence.
If we want to follow His example, we can't rush past people. We can’t assume we already know. Holy listening slows us down. It softens us. It invites us into the sacred space of someone else’s story, where healing often begins before a single word of advice is ever spoken.
Listening Without Agenda
Holy listening removes the agenda. It doesn’t demand agreement. It doesn’t insist on being right. It doesn’t turn the conversation into a debate.
It simply says, “I’m here. I’m with you. I want to understand your heart.”
This doesn’t mean we abandon truth. It means we trust that truth doesn’t need us to shout to be heard. Sometimes truth grows best in the quiet soil of empathy and patience.
Listening as Healing
There are people who are carrying pain they’ve never said out loud. People aching for someone—just one person—who won’t rush them or judge them or try to fix them. Just someone who will listen.
Holy listening can be the doorway to healing:
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A safe place to release burdens.
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A gentle space to process grief.
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A quiet moment where someone feels seen, maybe for the first time in a long time.
You don’t have to have the right words to offer healing. You just have to be present enough to hear.
Practicing Holy Listening
Here are a few ways to cultivate the art of holy listening:
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Pause before responding. Let silence be a friend, not a threat.
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Ask gentle questions. Not to interrogate, but to understand.
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Listen for the heart, not just words. What’s underneath what they’re saying?
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Resist the urge to fix. Some conversations aren’t asking for solutions—just space.
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Be present. Put the phone down. Make eye contact. Show up with your whole self.
Holy listening doesn’t require perfection; it requires presence.
The Grace in Being Heard
When we listen this way, something beautiful happens. People relax into honesty. They exhale. They soften. They start to believe they matter, not because of what they produce, but because of who they are.
And isn’t that the heartbeat of grace?
Holy listening is one of the simplest yet most powerful ways we can embody Christ. It’s a quiet ministry anyone can practice, anywhere, in any moment. We don’t need a pulpit or a platform. We just need a willing heart.
May we live as people who listen deeply. May we create holy spaces in ordinary conversations. And may our listening become a witness to the grace that changes everything.
Patrick Carden
