Soul Ties
I once had the opportunity to minister to a woman 30+ years old who came to me for help in leaving a disastrous lifestyle (teenage promiscuity, years of drug addiction and prostitution, abusive relationships with father and uncle). She needed and wanted healing, forgiveness and freedom.
At about the same time I also ministered to another 30+years old woman who was living her dream life (married to a successful businessman, two wonderful children, and all the love she could ask for). Yet, she came out of a similar background of abuse and teenage promiscuity. With all she had she still needed and wanted healing, forgiveness and freedom.
Both of these ladies had attended deliverance service after deliverance service, and both were still hurting when I met them. They both thought they had been delivered from their demons. They hadn't, not all any way.
What had been missed? Soul ties to everyone they had ever been in a relationship with, even if it lasted only a few hours. They still carried ties to the fornicators they had lain with, and the abusive men who they had trusted, and the drug dealers they had hoped would deaden their pain.
What is your past like? Have you cut the soul ties that linked you to the world of darkness. "Oh, but I'm a blood-washed, Spirit-filled Bible toter," you say, "how can I be linked to the past?" You can't be, if you cut those ties that continue to curse you. Again, I ask, "Have you?"
The following comes from my "Effective Spiritual Warfare" seminar which covers many areas of our war against the dark world.
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Apostle Zook
Godly Soul Ties occur when like-minded believers are together in the Lord: friends, marriage partners, believers to pastors, etc.
God has ordained and sanctioned the soul ties of bonding between children and parents, husbands and wives, friends with friends, and Christians with one another as members of the Body of Christ. Good soul ties are founded upon the law of love, which the Bible calls "the Law of Christ" (Galatians 6:2), and "the Royal Law" (James 2:8). Thus, the soul ties approved by God represent the bonding of persons together in agape love.
A. The Essentials of a Healthy Relationship
Must be godly. Your association with others must not conflict with your created role or have a bad influence on your life - Psalm 1:1; 2 Corinthians 6:14.
1. The relationship must have a purpose. It should not breed trouble. Jesus needs a human agent, Matthew 4:18-20.
2. It must be productive. If the relationship is not productive, it will be wasteful, Matthew 28:16-20.
3. The relationship should be honest. Christ told his disciples why He came, Matthew 16:21.
4. You should be able to confront unrighteousness. Jesus confronted Peter, Matthew 16:23.
5. The condition of the relationship should be clearly stated, Matthew 16:21, 20:17-19; Acts 16:1-3.
6. The condition of the relationship must be kept, Matthew 28:5-8; Acts 5:25, 13:1-2.
B. Ties of MarriageIn marriage, God purposes that a man and a woman "be joined...and the two shall become one flesh," Ephesians 5:31. They are to be bonded by love. "So husbands ought to love their own wives," Ephesians 5:28.
Within marriage sexual union is an expression of God-approved love. The Bible declares that in marriage God joins a husband and wife, and let not man, through divorce, put asunder what God has joined together, Matthew 19:6. Thus, divorce violently rends soul ties which God created. This tearing is what causes such pain, sorrow and trauma in divorce.
C. Ties of FriendshipThe soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul, 1 Samuel 18:1. Here is another type of soul tie which is pure and based upon love. Jonathan loved David even to the laying down of his rights to the throne of Israel.
There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother, Proverbs 18:24. The Hebrew word for "friend" is rea, meaning "companion or lover." What a friend we have in Jesus! "A friend loves at all times," Proverbs 17:17. Pure and holy soul ties are always based on godly love.
D. Parent/Child Soul TiesConcerning Jacob's relationship with his son, Benjamin, we read, "His father loves him...his life is bound up in the lad's life, and his soul is knit with the lad's soul," Genesis 44:20, 30 (AMP). Although Jacob's love for Benjamin was intensified because he believed his son, Joseph, had been killed; yet it illustrates the soul tie that exists between a parent and child.
When a child is born, the infant should be bonded to his parents. The parents convey their love to the child in many ways. When a healthy soul tie is formed, it ministers, throughout life, love and security to that child. The soul tie between parent and child stabilizes a child's personality.E. Soul Ties Between Christians
The church is made up of many members who are knit together and built up together through love. "The whole body joined and knit together by what every joint supplies...causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love," Ephesians 4:16. The relationship between Christians in the Body of Christ is compared to the relationship of the various parts of the human body. The soul ties formed between members of the Body of Christ are not only desirable but necessary, for they enable the Body of Christ to mature and fulfill its calling.
Ungodly Soul Ties
Relationships that lack "God-centeredness" can result in ungodly soul ties between friends, parents and children, siblings, marriage partners, former romantic or sexual partners, domineering authorities, etc.
An unhealthy attachment with another can bring about a psychic control that can adversely affect the life, e.g.: a mother who refuses to relinquish her hold on her children (tied to her apron strings), a person who refuses to release to the Lord the memory of an old romantic flame (withdrawing into nostalgia in times of holiness), a person who holds a grudge or a judgment against another, someone who uses spiritual forces to control others (witchcraft).
Demonic soul ties are perversions of the good and holy. Good soul ties are found upon love; demonic soul ties are founded upon lust. Remember, that satan cannot go beyond his limited rights: He must work within the framework of what he is allowed. When he gets the opportunity, he will pervert that which is pure.
1. Obsessive preoccupation with another, to the neglect of the things of the Lord.
2. Tendencies to be domineering and controlling in a relationship.
3. Tendencies to be passive and apathetic in a relationship...easily manipulated.
4. Inability to truly forgive from the heart.
5. Another person's voice playing over and over in the mind like a tape recorder.
6. Inability to bring a relationship under the godly order and control of the Holy Spirit.
7. Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship.
8. Fear of "being real" with or speaking truth to another...intimidation and fear of man.
9. Psychic or occult phenomena within a relationship.
"Do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her?" For 'the two,' He says, 'shall become one flesh,'" 1 Corinthians 6:16.
Through sexual relationships outside of marriage, demonic soul ties are forged. Those who engage in sex outside of marriage become the one flesh which God purposed solely for a husband and wife. Through adultery, an evil soul tie is created in lust, and this demonic soul tie destroys the holy union which is based upon mutual love and trust. When love and trust are betrayed through adultery, it is very difficult (although not impossible) to restore the shattered bonds of marital oneness.
Through petting outside of marriage, passions are aroused and demonic soul ties are created. The world's standard for couples is: dating, petting and marriage. God's order is: marriage, dating and petting. Excessive physical touching outside of marriage leads to the formation of a soul tie, and the lust that accompanies it makes the tie unclean, which opens the door for unclean spirits.
Perverse soul ties are not limited to those formed between persons of the opposite sex; they are also formed between those of the same sex through sodomy. Homosexuals, both gays and lesbians, attempt to remove the stigma of their sin by referring to themselves as "lovers," but the Word of God declares that their motivation is lust: Even their women changed the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another," Romans 1:26-27.
Furthermore, perverse soul ties include those formed between men and animals. Animals have souls (minds, emotions and wills); therefore, men can form soul ties with animals. The ultimate expression of sexual perversion is bestiality: lying carnally with animals.
Some soul ties with animals fall short of bestiality and are characterized by false compassion and inordinate affection for animals.
When Adam needed a companion with whom he could become one flesh, every animal in all creation passed in review before him, and, "Adam gave names to all livestock, and to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a helper meet (suitable, adapted, completing) for him," Genesis 2:20 (AMP). A soul tie with an animal is a perversion.
D. Ties with Evil Companions "Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character," 1 Corinthians 15:33 (AMP). One is readily influenced by his friends, so it is important to choose righteous and holy friends.
Soul ties with evil companions will ensnare you, and you will find yourself entangled in wickedness. Thorns and snares are in the way of the perverse; He who guards his soul will be far from them. Make no friendship with an angry man...lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul, Proverbs 22:5, 24-25.
Do not form soul ties with the Canaanites, Joshua 3:10Amorites - Boastful or one who like to express.
Anakim - A strangling necklace, Numbers 13:33.
Girgashites - A hidden spirit trying to trick you.
Hittites - Terror, fear, beat down or confusion.
Hivites - A person who seems to have life but not in Christ.
Jebusites - Trodden under foot, a person who likes to walk over others, a spiteful person.
Perrizites - Separate, immoral, tries to destroy the work of God.
E. Perverted Family TiesWithin a family there are close soul ties, any of which satan is eager to pervert. The soul tie between parent and child can be healthy and beneficial, except when it continues into the adult life of the child. The familiar expression, "cutting apron strings," actually speaks of severing the soul tie between the parent and an adult offspring. When a son or daughter is ready for marriage, the soul tie with the parents must be terminated in order for the soul tie between husband and wife to be formed. Therefore, God decrees, "A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife," Ephesians 5:31. When the father gives his daughter in marriage, he severs the soul tie with her in consideration of her husband. When the filial soul tie is not severed at the proper time, then that which was good and beneficial becomes evil through control and possessiveness.
For one to "leave his father and mother" is not to be understood as breaking relationships with parents. Rather, it speaks of a maturing of the parent/child relationship that accompanies the maturing of the son or daughter. One must never stop honoring his father and mother, for this is the commandment with promise, Exodus 20:12.
Sexual perverseness within family relationships has become alarmingly prevalent. This perversion occurs when there is an incestuous copulation between parents or parents-in-law and children, siblings, or other close family ties.
When the essential bonding between parents and child is missed at birth, the child is left with a sense of incompleteness which can leave him restless and searching for love-bonding throughout life. This is the reason that so many who did not bond with their parents in love are targets for satan's use.
F. Ties within the ChurchSpiritual leaders must maintain the spirit of John the Baptist who declared, "I am not the Christ...but the friend of the bridegroom," John 3:28-29. Otherwise, one usurps the position of Christ as Head of the Church and ties the people to himself.
Demons of doctrinal error have been known to identify themselves by the name of the leader who fostered the error. In such cases the demonic soul tie is clearly identified.
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