3 Gifts to Give Your Friends by Becky Harling

Steve and I have been in Costa Rica for the last week, relaxing and praying into 2026 and what the Lord has for us. Early this morning, I received an encouraging text message from one of my friends. It felt like a wink from God, confirming one area of my calling. As I've been thinking about my dear friend who sent the text, I've also been thinking about the different gifts we might give our friends. Beyond physical gifts—although those are wonderful—there are other gifts that encourage the soul. They offer a sort of life-support system. They refresh and revive the weary soul.
3 Gifts to Give Your Friends by Becky Harling
 
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Steve and I have been in Costa Rica for the last week, relaxing and praying into 2026 and what the Lord has for us. Early this morning, I received an encouraging text message from one of my friends. It felt like a wink from God, confirming one area of my calling.
 
As I’ve been thinking about my dear friend who sent the text, I’ve also been thinking about the different gifts we might give our friends. Beyond physical gifts—although those are wonderful—there are other gifts that encourage the soul. They offer a sort of life-support system. They refresh and revive the weary soul.
 
Solomon wrote, “Whoever refreshes others will be refreshed” (Proverbs 11:25b). It’s the law of reciprocity. If you refresh others, they’ll likely refresh you as well. Within the realm of friendship, there are three great ways to do this. I think of them as the 3 L’s of wise friendships.
 
3 Gifts to Give Your Friends
 
Listening. Ah, there is just nothing quite like a listening friend—one who offers full presence and just listens. Solomon told his son to both listen and pay attention (Proverbs 4:1). When you offer your friend your undivided attention and focus on understanding the heart behind their words, you are giving them an invaluable gift. Lean in and focus. Try to understand what’s going on under the surface. What a gift you will be!
 
Laughing. There’s nothing quite like a good belly laugh with good friends. Life is often serious, but laughter refreshes our souls. “A cheerful heart is good medicine” (Proverbs 17:11). Laughter lightens the burdens we carry daily. According to the Mayo Clinic, laughter releases endorphins, reduces stress, and stimulates your heart and lungs. When you’re with friends, laugh a little. Don’t take life quite so seriously. It will be great for your health!
 
Lifting. “A friend loves at all times” (Proverbs 17:17). Good friends are there for you in the great times but also in the tough times. Do you remember the friends who lifted their paralytic friend and carried him to Jesus? They dug through the roof and dropped him right in front of Jesus to be healed (Mark 2:1–12). These were some great friends! It also leaves me wondering about the paralytic. He must have been a great friend as well, that the four were so committed to him they were willing to carry him on a stretcher to the house where Jesus was teaching. In your life and mine, we are to lift our friends as well. Two tangible ways to do this are: one, lift them in prayer to Jesus; and two, elevate them—lift them up with your words and your actions.
 
In your friendships this week, seek to listen well, laugh a little, and lift your friends in prayer. You will be a treasure in the eyes of your friends.
 
Becky Harling